The Thrill of Heartbreak

A friend had confided in me about a girl he was pursuing, that he was sure was not as interested in him. I suggested he give up before his heart was broken. Unless... he was into that kind of stuff.

In so many words, he replied "As a mater of fact, I am" (...into that kind of stuff)

He said he liked the excitement of love and everything in between that might eventually lead to heartbreak. The 'drama' of it all.

Another friend said "Why do we eat, if we know we will eventually die?" Morbidly interesting point, lol. The purpose of life is to live it while we are here. Eat while we live, til we die. Love while we live, til we are heartbroken.

Even if it hurts to love and be broken, is it truly better than never loving at all?

I think I have loved too much to make a fair assessment. I have compared the level of elation of being in love... to the level of heartache I've felt when love ended. All I can conclude is... both are insanely overwhelming! (but obviously on opposite ends of the spectrum)

Let's hope my next blog will be about me and the falling in love aspect. Now THAT... is long overdue.

Heartbreak... Yummy! 

One Woman, Many Men

Today marked Day 2 of an ongoing online debate. The topic of "Making Things Simpler by Having a Sex Buddy".

To which I have replied: Nothing is simple when sex is involved. More specifically, a woman is less likely to have a strictly sexual relationship with a man... without the chance of feelings being involved. In turn, I was accused of setting a double standard.

As far as I knew, double standards are when you have a moral code set for one side, and not the other. I don't believe it's 'morally' wrong for a woman to have many partners, anymore than it is for a man to have them.

Example:

Fact/Opinion:

A woman is more likely to cry at the movies. A man is less likely.

Double Standard:

It is only acceptable for a woman to cry at the movies. Never for a man.

I know I'm not wrong here.

What I DO believe, is that a typical woman will become emotionally involved while having intimate relations with a man. We're just wired that way. We are more likely to 'make love', men are more likely to 'screw'. And I believe any woman who thinks she is capable of having "just sex" with a man, without having any feelings... even if they're tucked away in her subconscious... is probably fooling herself.

Cursed be this estrogen.